I must say “girl, get it together” at least 5 times a week. I’m drowning in a sea of busy, frustration and lack of focus. Furthermore, my “free time” is not free from stress or strain. The situation’s got me singing “don’t push me ’cause I’m close to the edge. I’m trying not to lose me head.” Real talk. As a result of all this stress and craziness my mental and physical health is suffering. This cannot continue. So, realizing that my behavior makes the situation worse, I decide to change course and get it together before I lose it all.


I’ve been feeling pretty crotchety lately. Actually, the feeling is down right depression. So much of my energy centers on what isn’t working in my life, who doesn’t like me and how much money I don’t have. I literally come home with head and body aches because I continue to replay the stress in my mind. Don’t get me wrong, the pressure is real but my response doesn’t help. Two wonderful friends pulled my collar and got me right together on that!

Their words really lay on my heart and ultimately open my mind to another way of addressing my situation. These friends showed me how and why I need to get it together. Instead of focusing on what’s wrong, focus on what’s right. Instead of resisting the discomfort, lean into it. I intentionally smile and tell myself that no matter what, today is a good day. My thoughts are of all that I have rather than the things I don’t have. I visualize a force field around me that protects me from the macro/micro aggressions of others. Furthermore, I reduce the amount of time I spend discussing my issues. Believe it our not these tactics have changed my demeanor in just a few short days.


Okay, now that I have some thought redirections to work on, it’s time to shift from defensive to offensive responses to stress. Looking at the landscape of my skills and experience I realize that I have enough in my wheel house to build my own empire. Yes, I said empire! Why not think big? I have everything I need to create my own personal empire as long as I stay focused on the positives not the negatives in my life. I can shift the energy I waste on stressing out at the job to working on building my business. Here’s how I will do it:

  • Develop time management strategies for work and use those skills for my business
  • Set aside time for self-care and healthy eating to fight stress in the body
  • Dedicate my lunch hour to building my business
  • Save my best ideas for my business
  • Emotionally distance myself from my stress and take nothing personal
  • Develop daily/weekly/monthly goals
  • Constantly network and connect with others


In conclusion, my stress and discomfort is a gift. This situation forces me to get closer to God, to become more organized, to refocus and to grow. Looking at all challenges and hardships in this way will give me the foundation and strength I need to elevate to the next level. I am truly grateful for my friends who said “girl, get your life together.” Without them I may have lost myself to the sadness of it all and wasted all of my blessings. If you have a story of resilience and triumph please share it in the comments below.



6 Comments on Girl, Get It Together Before You Lose It All

  1. Clarice
    March 6, 2017 at 4:53 PM (12 months ago)

    Tiffany, I’m really enjoying your writing style. Great post – love the honesty. Definitely something I feel I can relate to right now. I especially liked the comment about not discussing problems as much – I notice when I discuss my problems more, I tend to dwell on them more and get more upset rather than problem solving. I think I’ll take your lead on this one and stop discussing my frustrations as much and redirect that energy into building something positive! Sounds like you’ve got some great friends and support right now too 😊

    • Tiffany Bacon
      March 7, 2017 at 11:36 AM (12 months ago)

      Good morning Clarice!

      Thank you for the wonderful compliment! I find that I need to be honest so that I can let the bad stuff go. Holding onto negative thoughts and emotions do not help any stressful situation. Continue to redirect the negativity. You will see that it makes a big difference in your life! Thanks again for reading and commenting on this post. I appreciate it!

  2. Theresa
    March 6, 2017 at 5:35 PM (12 months ago)

    What a great post! I agree with everything you said. I am feeling stressed a lot and never know what to do with my feelings. Starting a blog has helped a lot, because it takes my mind off of things.
    Thanks for sharing!
    xx, Theresa

    • Tiffany Bacon
      March 7, 2017 at 11:32 AM (12 months ago)

      Hi Theresa,

      Thank you so much for your comment. Redirecting my energy to this blog and all things positive has helped me a great deal in a short period of time. Keep on blogging! I wish you all the best!

  3. Natasha Botkin
    March 7, 2017 at 4:46 AM (12 months ago)

    Very much something that I relate to. Building a business or anything takes persistentance and oodles of love.

    • Tiffany Bacon
      March 7, 2017 at 11:30 AM (12 months ago)

      Thanks so much for your comments Natasha. It is tough but worth it. Best of luck to you and thanks again for your comment.


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